keys to me
What is a seasoned woman you ask? Well, I like this definition "borrowed" from a NYT review of the book Sex and the Seasoned Woman: Pursuing a Passionate Life by the best-selling Passages' author Gail Sheehy.
"A seasoned woman is spicy. She has been marinated in life experience. Like a complex wine, she can be alternately sweet, tart, sparkling, mellow. She is both maternal and playful. Assured, alluring, and resourceful.... The seasoned woman knows who she is. She could be any one of us, as long as she is committed to living fully and passionately in the second half of her life, despite failures and false starts."
I also liked this idea that I "borrowed" from another reviewer. And that is coming up with a seasoning that describes what kind of seasoned woman (or male) you are. For me, I decided on cardamom, which is used in a lot of Indian cooking, and describes me because I am:
Intense, yet also warm and sweet.
Details will be covered in G-Spot blog posts and will drive many of the activities and get-togethers that I suggest.
Broadly speaking: Having fun and stimulating conversations, reading and book club type discussions; like small talk but not too much of it. Lean towards artsy-fartsy activities including indie films (though do popular or middlebrow movies too), arts & crafts shows, farmers markets, art galleries, plays...
When I first got into the online dating scene more than 10 years ago, I loved and indulged in two features (mostly on the site I loved the most thus was most active on--OkCupid): 1) Instant chat ans 2) Journaling or blogging.
Since today's online dating sites don't offer those anymore, to paraphrase a line from the Eurythmics song:
This sister is doin' it for herself.
Standing on her own two feet.
And ringin' her own bells."
Dating wise my "Intent" as PoF puts it: SeasonedWoman is looking to date but nothing serious. And as I started building out this website that would act as "extended profile" and journaling outlet, I realized I'm hoping to create something broader and deeper:
A community of fun, diverse, interesting and often quirky folks to hang with both online and IRL.
Basic Profile Stuff
5'11" or 180cm
Not too fat, not too thin (i.e. an endo-mesomorph)
Non-smoking, non-religious (though very spiritual with a pantheistic outlook)
Healthy, heterosexual, black baby boomer female
- Bachelor's degree in business and lifelong micro-business creator
Still working full-time and enjoying it (mostly)
Personality (quirks notwithstanding)
Leo sun sign with overall "sunny" outlook on life. Think: Annie-the-sun- will-come-up-tomorrow, "make hay while the sun shines"
INTP (Myers-Briggs Inventory)
Quirky, Thoughtful, Passionate (most often used by others)...Protean, Smart, Sensual
High self-confidence, high openness, high easy-goingness, low self-control, strong family orientation, Can share PoF "Chemistry Predictor" if interested
4 Potential Dates/Romantic Interests Mostly
Relationship status: It's complicated.
Longest relationship: Over 20 years marriage.
Looks: Striking or cute (so I've been told) rather than conventionally beautiful. But pretty average, everyday.
Have one very grown daughter whom close to; however family-driven leisure is a not a big happiness driver.
On the other hand: My pets are a HUGE part of my everyday life (read: they ARE my family)
Liberal/open-minded sociopolitical orientation
Enjoy "life of mind" related hobbies and outings.